Blast from the past: How your inner child wounds wrecks havoc in your adult life.

Muhammad Khairul
7 min readFeb 7, 2022
Photo by Caroline Hernandez on Unsplash

While most of us may be busy with our jobs and commitments, how often do we take the time to cultivate a relationship with the inner child? Or had we neglected it? Had we forgotten to realize that we were once ever a child in our lives? Ever wondered why sometimes we made really poor choices in life? Self-sabotaging ourselves, or had felt that we had forgotten about ourselves when we get into a new relationship? Could it all stem from an unresolved old inner child wound or trauma that’s resurfacing? In this newsletter, we will share about the inner child within us and the types of childhood traumas we may have encountered in the past.

“The emotional wounds and negative patterns of childhood often manifest as mental conflicts, emotional drama, and unexplained pains in adulthood.” ~Unknown

What is the inner child?

When growing up, we may have picked up messages from the people and environment around us before our conscious mind could fully rationalize and process a situation mentally and emotionally. The inner child is the subconscious part of your psyche which retains the childlike aspects of ourselves as well as the qualities about ourselves when we were once innocent as a child. It’s the part of ourselves that retains its innocence, creativity, memories, hopes, joy, awe, and wonder as well as our needs from our childhood. The inner child can recall the good experiences as well as the childhood fears, traumas, neglect, and loss when experienced as a child.

What is inner child work?

Inner child work, also known as inner child healing, is a trauma-informed approach to working with people who have experienced various formed of trauma, abuse, and neglect earlier in their lives within or outside the family. Doing inner child work is a way where we could address our unmet needs when we were a child and heal the attachment wounds we may have developed in the past.

Inner child work is a framework that blends various theories and therapies which include: attachment theory, somatic (or body-based) therapies, Jungian Shadow work, Internal Family Systems, and psychodynamic theories. Many of these theories and therapy frameworks are rooted in…



Muhammad Khairul

✍🏼Writer, 📚 poet, 🎨 artist, ❤️‍🩹 HSP empath, 🧠 mental health advocate, 🎓 student of psychology